Vivinavi : Hawaii : (United States) Hawaii

• ビタミンC
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 10:38
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What do you want to do by posting your negative feelings in a social networking forum? ？
You want to gain sympathy ？
You want to communicate with others who feel the same way ？
I don't think this is a place for complaining …. I think this is not the place to complain . You can vent on your own social networking site ？

By the way, I came along with my husband for his work.
I had to quit my own job in Japan.
I didn't have a longing for Hawaii or overseas, so I didn't come here because I wanted to.
Not all people are attracted to Hawaii and came here.

I hope your wish comes true and you can leave Hawaii soon.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 11:12
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Since you selected the tab for your concerns ・ consultation, I thought it was okay to post this kind of content.
Sorry if I offended you.
Should I delete it ？?

• ビタミンC
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 15:47
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You were worried and asked for advice.
My reading comprehension was not good.
My apologies.
As a resident of Hawaii, I was a little displeased with your post, which negates everything about Hawaii. I hope you get some good advice.

• ビタミンD
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• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 17:16
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I am also a Mainlander who moved from Mainland. I understand how you feel because it is hard for those who had to move to Hawaii from the Mainland. I think it takes a few years to get used to it.

I know there are some lands that don't suit you, but to name only the lacking parts without mentioning a single good thing at all, doesn't it come from your personality, regardless of the land ？ Negative people don't attract people. Shaka （ You should start by looking up the meaning of shaka ） ？

If changing the environment will solve your mental problems, you should discuss it with your husband ？ ？ ？ You can take regular trips to Maine land or any other way to relax. ？

This is a place for people who live in Hawaii to read. Some of us work from morning till night and live hard. You should refrain from using straight words like "I hate Hawaii" or "hell.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 18:20
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It takes a few years to get used to it.
I have researched Hawaiian culture, customs, etc.
I know what shaka means, but I feel uncomfortable when I see Japanese people using it.
I also tried to learn the Hawaiian language.
That was the basis of my post. I have been able to positively enjoy wherever I live, so this is the first time in my life that I have had this experience and I am surprised at myself.
I really can't find anything good about it except that it is close to Japan.
I am discussing this with my husband.
Can you tell me how to relax and if there is anything other than a trip to the mainland ？
I can't think of anything else.

I didn't know this is not a place for negative remarks or straight talk.
I was in a dire situation this morning and wrote what was on my mind.
My apologies.

• コロナが大好き
• mail
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 18:26
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Get the hell out of Hawaii before I apologize ｡.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 18:31
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Yes, I can't wait to get out.
You can't even apologize here.

• ビタミンD
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• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:04
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If you can't find a way to relax, other than traveling to the mainland, then you should get married separately and move to the mainland ？ If the cost of living is a problem, then you should get a job too. Thinking this and that is not a solution, and you will just repeat your mental problems no matter where you go~.

• ビタミンE
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:06
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I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way, as I did not come to Hawaii by choice either.
Now, speaking of relaxation, I'm afraid I may not be able to help you.

I am afraid of meeting people under Corona, so
I do sand bathing only for the lower half of my body at Ala Moana Beach. It's pretty funny.

I also do Hatake. I do more per person. LOL

My friend is a college student by correspondence.

Whatever.
It's important to laugh.
Please be conscious and find a way to enjoy yourself.

In a way, what you received here is a baptism of Hawaii Nippon Mura - lol.
Good luck ！

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:21
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Dear Vitamin E

Baptism in the Hawaiian Japanese Village ！ I see what you mean.
I will make an effort to find something I can enjoy alone.
Thank you for your advice.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:27
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Dear Vitamin D

I was wondering if you could give me some specific answer since you said, "There are many ways to relax". Separated marriages only? I understand. I am not a this-or-that kind of person, so I think I can have a good time in other places. Thank you very much.

• ビタミンチャージ
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:29
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I moved to Hawaii because I love Hawaii, but
I am sick of wanting to go back to Japan with age.

I hate the ocean, mountains and insects.
However, I love handicrafts, so I have immersed myself in Hawaiian quilting. I am also trying yoga, which I had no interest in before.
I spent an hour in Kapiolani Park, and I feel like I escaped from the negativity I had been feeling.

Please find something you love to do before you get depressed or other illnesses.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:30
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Dear Vitamin F

Thank you.
My question is, is it a rule here to continue the alphabet from Vitamin C ？
or is it the same person ？?

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:33
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Dear Vitamin Charge

Thank you.
I hear that yoga refreshes both body and mind.
I might give it a try.

• ビタミンD
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• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 19:52
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I took it to mean "other than the relaxation method, other than the Mainland trip." I just thought that if even relaxation is not an option, then you have to move ？.

You see, Hawaii is not all bad with some people giving you kind advice. Good luck making new friends and having fun in real life!

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/11 (Thu) 20:25
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Dear Vitamin D

I re-read my sentence and it was written in a way that could be taken that way. My apologies. Yes, I realized that there are kind people and that there are also people who enjoy their alone time.
I will try to be positive and try again.

I am glad to hear your opinions. It's been a long time since I talked so much in Japanese.
I feel a little better now.

• ワイズ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 14:40
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It was good to hear your opinions.
＞ It's been a long time since I talked so much in Japanese.
＞ I felt a little better.

What? ？ I lived in NY for 10 years and Europe for 8 years, but there is a foreign country where you can speak a lot more Japanese than Hawaii ？
There is anything easier than speaking Japanese to make you feel better ？
Really? Have you ever lived abroad? ？ It sounds like the problems of someone from Japan who is living abroad for the first time.
Or maybe it's the Hawaii knocking, I understand the feeling of envy and wanting to knock Hawaii because it's so popular.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 15:09
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Mr. Wise

Yes, I really have lived abroad.
I said I hadn't spoken Japanese in a long time because I don't know anyone in Hawaii who speaks Japanese.
I had Japanese friends where I used to live, so I spoke Japanese far more than I do now.
Even though you say Hawaii, do you ever see or hear Japanese in stores outside of Waikiki? ？
Sorry, I don't know, I don't eat out or go out much.

What do you mean by "Hawaii beat" ？
I don't understand, can you please tell me ？.

• ワイズ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 15:31
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Don't ask questions about everything.

If you can't make a single Japanese friend in Hawaii, you must have other problems ？
The best thing I can recommend for you is counseling.

In other states, there are so few Japanese that they are forced to associate with other Japanese.
That is not a real friend, just a connection because they want to speak Japanese.

Here in Hawaii, like in Japan, Japanese people are not rare, so
if you don't communicate with them yourself, they won't do anything for you.
It must be a relief for you to finally have people to talk to and vent to here.

Please take care of yourself.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 15:48
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Mr. Wise

I thought it would be better to ask the person you mentioned rather than googling him, so I could understand the intent of his question and avoid any gaps in the conversation.
Is there any reason why you are not answering my question ？

I see. I have never been in a situation in another state where I had to go out with a few Japanese people.
I never tried to connect with them because I wanted to speak Japanese.
But the friends I made there I still keep in touch with even when we are apart, and I consider them true friends.

So Hawaii is just like Japan.
I thought Hawaii and Japan were different.
Is this what you call beating Hawaii? ？
I don't understand why Japanese people are taken advantage of because they are rare.

Please take care of yourself. but what? ？
But can you answer my question again?

• ワイズ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 15:57
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Poor thing, she just wants to be bothered, doesn't she?
Really, please take care of yourself.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 16:09
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Mr. Wise

What are you taking care of ？
Sorry, I don't understand.

• ロコモコ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 16:56
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？ "I'm sorry" is correct.

Crawfish, do you realize that you wrote incoherently ？
You wrote that you were depressed, so Mr. Wise wrote, "Please take care of yourself." I think that's why Mr. Wise wrote "Take care of yourself".

I also feel that you are full of excuses when I read your writing.
Instead of talking to someone about your problems,

＞ I don't know because I don't eat out or go out much
There are many good restaurants in Hawaii.

＞ I don't know anyone who speaks Japanese in Hawaii
It's easy to make Japanese acquaintances.

This just makes me complain that I hate Hawaii.
I don't feel like talking about my problems.

＞ I haven't talked this much in Japanese in a long time.
If you have friends in other states, why don't you just ZOOM with them everyday ？
I have talked a lot with friends I haven't talked to in a while because of the Corona disaster.

I also feel you are just someone who is beating up on Hawaii.
"XXX slapping" is an internet term for "XXX criticism".

• ワイズ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 17:41
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To Rocco Moco

Thank you for following me.

But you know, it's a waste of time to say anything to a bothered person.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:00
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Mr. Loco Moco

Thank you ！
That's what you meant by "beating Hawaii". I can't write in these places unless I learn internet terms too. I wrote many things I didn't like about Hawaii, so I thought it could have been called criticism of Hawaii. You told me to take care of my depression.
I understand. You said, "There are many good restaurants," but I wrote that because I can't afford to go out to eat often because of the high prices. It is not that I don't go out to eat at all.

"It's easy to make Japanese acquaintances," you said, but I didn't try to make Japanese acquaintances because I didn't particularly need them.
I am sorry that it sounds like I am complaining.

"How can I find good things about Hawaii ？ Can you give me any advice ？?"
I should have written something like ？
Would you take this as advice about my problems? ？

I heard zoom has lax security, so I talk to my friends in other ways. It wasn't that I didn't do anything at all, it was just that I hadn't talked to them recently.

Is it my imagination that I feel like I'm getting fried no matter what I say here?

• ロコモコ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:10
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#33 Mr. Wise

Mr. Wise was right, I was 'bothered'.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:15
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Mr. Loco Moco
Mr. Wise

Is "bother" also an internet term ？
Does it mean someone who asks a lot of questions ？?

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:16
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Dear A

You are so right.
I posted it and I am responsible for responding to you, but how long will it last? I want to stop now.

• ワイキキ
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:35
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Crawfish

"There are many good restaurants," I wrote that because I cannot afford to go out to eat often because of the high prices. It is not that I don't go out to eat at all.

→ Poor people are happier not to live in Hawaii.

Because they can't afford it, they can't make friends and go to restaurants, they can't afford to volunteer or learn.
All of this is the root cause of the lack of money ？

You can speak English, then why don't you work ？
There are no jobs for Japanese companies in Hawaii now, but there are many jobs available! There are no jobs for Japanese companies in Hawaii right now.

• Crawfish
• 2021/11/12 (Fri) 18:50
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Dear Waikiki

I think you are right.
I can't argue with that. I think that lack of money is at the root of all problems.
Living in Hawaii is heartbreakingly hard for poor people.
Yes, I will start by finding a job.

Thank you for your on point comments.

• ラピュタ
• 2021/11/13 (Sat) 11:59
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Crawfish-san

Even if you don't like Hawaii, you probably followed your husband because he doesn't mind.

Several Japanese women who could not keep up with their husbands' transfers who loved Hawaii and did not want to move to the mainland, got divorced.

If two couples work together, they will realize how fortunate Hawaii is to have Japanese people.

Most Japanese who have lived on the mainland have experienced racism ？ Hawaii is a predominantly Japanese land

You will be treated well, not racially. And you can get more Japanese food than on the mainland, and there are many Sushi restaurants.

Not having to buy winter clothes will also clear out your closet.

After a month in Hawaii, this wonderful climate has cured my depression. Rheumatism was cured.
I have also heard that the climate in Hawaii cured my depression within a month.
Please look for the positive aspects.

• 本当だね
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• 2021/11/14 (Sun) 19:30
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You are absolutely right Crawfish.
Bad things about Hawaii
are not like this.
There are probably more.
Then
are there any good things about Hawaii …
I am sure there are many good things.
The point is
where you look …
if you look at the bad, you will only complain
if you look at the good, you will only be grateful
you have the choice what to look at in life.
You are free to do so.
I came to Hawaii 20 years ago,
I thought, "If I come to Hawaii for pleasure, it's heaven ， If I live here, it's hell
.
I realized that no matter where you live, it's always about where your eyes are
.
When I was living in Japan, I was living my life taking it for granted without feeling "how wonderful Japan is"
.
After coming to Hawaii, I have learned many good things about Japan ，
and I am now proud to be Japanese.
I was able to spend 20 years in Hawaii, which made me realize many things.

• 焼き魚は大根おろしで
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• 2021/11/15 (Mon) 20:37
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Mr. Crawfish
If you are from the Mainland and would rather complain about the lack of things every day, why don't you go back to Japan for a while ？
However, there might be a risk that your husband will get a girlfriend while you are separated. However, there is a risk that your husband may get a girlfriend while you are separated. If you were to live so earnestly, you would be suffocated. Make friends first and go out. I hope you can get away from the internet ！.

• Akahiki
• 2022/03/04 (Fri) 10:51
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Dear Crawfish

I recently returned to Hawaii after a 10 year absence due to a job transfer. This is my wife's first time in Hawaii. She doesn't complain to me, but I'm sure she's confused and depressed about life in Hawaii. As a husband, first of all, I am sorry for giving her a hard time. And thank you so much for following me.

• こーの字
• 2022/03/04 (Fri) 15:52
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I guess it depends on where your standard of happiness is.

For me,
the beautiful ocean is right next to me,
I can get to know pleasant locals,
the climate is stable, and
it suits me.
It is also good that Japanese foods are easily available.
I also enjoy learning about the history of Hawaiians, Nikkei, and immigrants.

Of course, there is a lot to think about in terms of finances.
For now, I try to keep the expenses I keep down to a minimum, and I'm getting by.

However, this is really an individual value, so
just because others are enjoying themselves doesn't mean you have to feel that way, and
conversely, because you are not enjoying yourself, it doesn't mean you should deny others.

and I have written my feelings.
You need not reply to me.
I hope you will find some good solution.

• アイちゃん
• 2022/04/03 (Sun) 22:53
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Crawfish

It took me quite a while to get used to life here after I came to Hawaii. Sometimes I still see a lot of things I don't like.

Japan is cheap, convenient, delicious, fun, and has four seasons.

I understand your feelings.

Some cold Japanese are throwing cold words at you, but you can ignore these strange Japanese.
There are a lot of strange Japanese in Hawaii
There are more stupid and shit people
bragging just because they live in Hawaii.
They don't have friends or family in Japan, so they say Hawaii is better than Japan ！ How dare they! They are poor people who have no place to go back to Japan.

Let's leave the stupid cold Japanese alone

They can complain and complain as much as they want.
You are free to say whatever you want. ！


To the scumbags who criticized Crawfish, don't say cold words all the time to people who are complaining about their problems.
You should be warmer ？
You live in Hawaii, so you should be more aloha ！ before you say so, be nice to people!

• j自由人
• 2022/04/04 (Mon) 02:55
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Dear Crawfish
I moved to Hawaii a long time ago because I was attracted to the good old days in Hawaii. Although I am not attracted to the convenience of Hawaii today, I prefer to live in Hawaii where I can relax even if I am poor and have no time to relax, rather than living in Japan where I feel suffocated. I am happy to return to Japan once in a while to spend time with people I have missed, eat delicious food, soak in hot springs, and return to Hawaii to look forward to my next trip to Japan. I am comfortable living in an environment where I can do what I want to do and try new things without worrying about my age or what people around me think of me. If you are more comfortable living in Japan or Mainland Japan than living here, then go to a place where you feel happy and live there while feeling happy. Let's live in a place where you can feel happy. Ask yourself what you want most right now and how you can be happy. This day will never come back. Let's love and care for yourself the most so that you can live a life with no regrets. It is your own precious life that belongs to no one else.

• J
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• 2022/04/04 (Mon) 09:39
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I used to live in the Mainland too, so I think I know how you feel ！
I have lived in Hawaii for about 10 years or more, and I think that prices will seem less expensive if you make your own money. On the other hand, if you travel to other places, you will start to feel lucky because everything is cheap. They say that if you live in the city, you will be happy, and your happiness will come from yourself, but I think it depends a lot on your interactions with your friends and the people around you. You may not be able to make good friends while you think you don't like many things, but as you enjoy your life and start to be surrounded by good people, I think you will enjoy living in Hawaii.

• 和
• 2022/04/04 (Mon) 23:01
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I agree with Aichan ！
Hawaii seems to be the right place for me and I am living comfortably, but
I wonder how someone can say such mean things to someone who is suffering hard ？.
I think the person writing this must be living an unhappy life with a lot of complaints ？
I can feel the awkwardness so much that it's scary.
I wish they would be so generous as to complain on the internet.

Crawfish, I hope you can find something to ask for.