Vivinavi : Hawaii : (United States) Hawaii

• MM
• 2022/07/14 (Thu) 23:26
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Thank you for your experience.

It is also a pain that you have to stay behind with those rules.
#14, are you happy with divorce? ？

I heard that an acquaintance of mine was able to get a divorce under Japanese law as long as she was going back to Japan. You should ask your lawyer about this too.

• 私もバツ1
• 2022/07/15 (Fri) 01:06
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MM

In my case, my ex-husband was violent, so I had one choice: divorce.
Please consult a competent lawyer to protect yourself and your children.

I don't think it was in my time
to say that if you assume you are going to return to Japan, you should use Japanese law.

Laws change so often that it is hard to say, but
100% custody is rare and usually 50%50%, and then it is difficult to return to Japan.

I got divorced more than 10 years ago, but
I was told by my lawyer that children born in the US were obligated to live in the US.

The financial aspect is fine.
If MM works, she can live on child support and government assistance.
And when your ex-husband retires, you will get half of his pension.

• MM
• 2022/07/15 (Fri) 08:17
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I'm sorry to hear that you were in a domestic violence situation. I am sorry to have reminded you of something unpleasant.

I was quite surprised to learn that in the U.S. you have to agree on many things when you get divorced.
My desire to return to Japan has become even stronger. I was worried about the financial aspect, but I am glad that I have an assumption that I can live both in the U.S. and in Japan.

• Ginger
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• 2022/07/15 (Fri) 11:18
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I am also a divorcee with two children. I went to beauty school with my ex-husband a long time ago because I felt a gap in values between him and me.
The principal told me that I should extend the divorce as long as I could ？ and build a foundation for my life while getting support from the government. I was given a government grant and a tuition waiver, and the tuition I had paid was repaid.
Five years later, after more than 10 years on paper, I get my military ex-husband's retirement, half SSA for being married for 10 years, and a few years later, I switch to my higher benefits. I am really thankful for Marry.
Don't be discouraged. Don't be discouraged. I know it's hard to sleep at night, but this is
Life is all about acceptance and only about the children and yourself
Settlement should be written in a clear manner.
All expenses for children to visit their father are to be paid by the father
Airfare, clothes, etc.
Expenses for sweet sixteen parties are to be paid by the father.
High school and college enrollment fees are covered by the father. If he/she goes to college, he/she will be supported until he/she turns 24 years old.
You are responsible for school trips
You are responsible for income tax for both children
Support for your future as a housewife
In case of divorce, where should I go to court, Japan or Hawaii ？
In Hawaii, if you cheat on your wife, you can get a divorce decree. If you are cheating on your husband, it's no foult.
If you go alone for a free 30 minute consultation with a lawyer, you should go in 25 minutes
Set your watch and don't go over.
America is a friendly place for Single Mother. You can talk to a counselor to arrange for a government grant to help you get into school. Or, if you go back to Japan where your mother lives, it would be nice to have a supporter.

• MM
• 2022/07/15 (Fri) 23:25
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#18
Thank you for your kind attention. I see that one way to remain in the US is to get a certificate from school. It is very helpful. I envy you that you met a wonderful principal and now you are living a wonderful life. Action speaks volumes. I have to take action too.
I am encouraged.

It was recently in the news that the price of living in Hawaii has gone up even more, and I think it would be better to return to Japan if I think the price will go up rapidly.