Vivinavi : Hawaii : (United States) Hawaii

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• 2024/07/25 (Thu) 19:04
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Unless you are going to live with your child in the U.S., I think it is better to have the child and raise it alone if the father is not involved with the child, rather than spending a small amount of money on legal fees for recognition and child support.
If the father is not involved in the child's life, I think it would be better to let the child be born and raised by the father alone, than to have the father claim custody of the child and then have the other party be involved in the child's life.　
I think it would be better for the child to live with a new partner and a new family in the future than to have to spend the rest of his life dealing with a man who is paying a few hundred dollars a month in child support.
Unless the father is a man with a good heart who wants to be involved in his child's life, otherwise I think it would be better for his life and his child's life to stay out of it. If the child and the father want to be involved in each other's lives in the future, let them be, but if he is the kind of guy who runs away, recognition is a waste of time.
What kind of lawsuit are you going to file ？ It's a waste of money.　Even if you get a court ruling that you can get child support, if they don't pay, you will have to go to court again to get support from the child support authorities.
If they still don't pay.... There is no end to it. You will have to request garnishment of your wages.　Forget about the existence of the child support system, rather than wasting time, money, effort, and stress.　There are many men in America who are so corrupt that they don't get a job so they don't have to pay child support and even accept an inconvenient lifestyle with cash-only jobs. If that partner is rich with status, it may be a different story, but if not, it would be wise to give up.

• ajisai
• 2024/07/25 (Thu) 20:26
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If you are not married, I think you will need a DNA test.
Even if there is a court order for child support, some people don't pay it and run away.
You might not want to get your hopes up too high.
He already ran away.

• JT
• 2024/07/26 (Fri) 12:25
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Unless the woman lives in Hawaii, she will not be able to receive child support from the national government (国(アメリカ). You will have to hire a lawyer to get it from the father of your child.

My advice to other Japanese women
If you are not married yet, why don't you use contraception ？
I feel sorry for your unborn child, and it must be the most painful for the woman herself.
There are women in Hawaii who are single mothers and make a lot of money, but
only a handful. If you need support, it is best to use contraception or not to have sexual intercourse.
Protect yourself.

• レイ
• 2024/07/28 (Sun) 06:07
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The State of Hawaii won't bother
to intervene on behalf of Japanese i.e. foreigners.

• A
• 2024/07/28 (Sun) 18:55
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I know it must be hard for you to be alone, but you mustered up the courage to write this.
I don't know because I don't know anyone myself or anyone I know who has gone through what Ayachin did, but if I were in the same situation as Ayachin, I would try the following things first.

・ Hawaii child support authorities
Search for Hawaii child support on the Hawaii State Judiciary website Child Support Guidelines page, State of Hawaii Child Support Enforcement Agency page on the State of Hawaii website.
First, I contacted all of the authorities listed here one by one, explaining my current situation and asking
- whether I am eligible to use Hawaii's child support authorities
- （ since my child is not yet born ） at this time You may inquire
if there is anything you can do now to qualify to use the child support authorities, if so, please let me know .

・ Acknowledgment
If the child's father has acknowledged the child, I would guess that the child can probably obtain US citizenship （ This is only my guess, so you may want to check with the embassy or consulate ）.
If your child is a US citizen and resides in Japan, you may want to ask the US embassy or consulate in Japan if he or she is eligible for support from US agencies.

Are you aware of the assets as well as income of the child's father ？
If the father acknowledges the child, and if the child's father has assets, the child will have inheritance rights in the future, regardless of whether the parents are married or not, and will be entitled to assets.
On the other hand, if the child's father has assets, the child will have inheritance rights regardless of whether the parents are married or not. Conversely, if the child's father has significant debts, the child will inherit the debts as well when the child's father dies.

I think it would be a good idea to carefully consider the advantages and disadvantages of receiving recognition from your child's father and formulate a strategy.

・ Contacting your child's father
You wrote that you "eventually ran away", but are you currently unable to contact him at all ？ Are you still able to communicate with him ？
You could contact his parents and ask for support. and ask them for support.

・ Consulate-General of Japan in Honolulu
We understand that Ayachin-san is currently living in Japan, but the father of your child lives in Hawaii, so we suggest that you consult with the Consulate-General of Japan in Honolulu.

Please take care of yourself.