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I'm annoyed at my friends who can't report back to me.

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#1
  • Makiki
  • 2021/07/12 19:20

She is a relatively new friend whom I met after moving to Hawaii, but whenever I have a question （ I want to ask her, such as how to write in English or how to do something ）, she asks me a lot of questions at all hours. I try to help her by texting her questions, but she never reads my questions about her specialty. When I helped her with school procedures for her relatives, it took a long time for no reason even though I asked for a report on the results.

I understand that I am an idiot for responding so earnestly, and I know I shouldn't have high expectations, but I feel like I'm not doing enough. I don't think I'm doing anything to make people hate me, but I'm feeling ashamed that I'm being taken advantage of. I would like to know if you have had similar experiences and still continue to be friends ？ I would like to know how to casually keep my distance from them even if they ask me questions.

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#5

Stoker
Thanks for your input. That's a good way to look at it, and it helps me to keep a level head too. My friend is certainly too self-deprecating and sometimes I feel she is panicking. I will try not to look directly at them and pass them by with a narrow eye.

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#6
  • フェードアウト
  • mail
  • 2021/07/16 (Fri) 22:01
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When asked a question, I would purposely leave time to delay my reply. If it were me, I would reply after a week. If you keep replying leisurely, they'll give up. If they really have a problem, they'll look it up on the internet or find someone else on their own, so it's okay to leave it alone.

Also, if he asks you out for dinner or something, just say no, that you're busy, and don't make any further contact with him. You may be lucky to find out his/her self-centeredness quickly while you still can.

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#7

How to keep your distance⁉️ I think you know the answer yourself.
I can only follow your advice. I am afraid that maybe I will lose one friend ？ Friends are not about the number of friends, but about humanity, and if you go out with someone, you and your partner will be happy ♪ I hope you will take this opportunity to grow as an adult woman.

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#8

Fadeout
Thanks for your very practical input. I will try to do something about my habit of responding immediately. I will do my best to change the course to a fair relationship before it becomes like a rotten relationship.

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#9
  • ハワイ
  • 2021/07/17 (Sat) 14:17
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There are so many of them in the Vivinavi community.

Ignore them.

Posting about Japanese TV and posting about railroads is
an act of revenge.

There are a lot of restrictions in Covid19, and as an outlet, they are here to
sabotage Japanese TV, and the railroads have nothing
to do with them, they are just taking it out on them.

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