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Have you ever used or know of a reliable affair investigation or box office?

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#1
  • Mana
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  • 2023/06/01 07:50

Hello I am posting this to get some information and opinions from you all.

My husband is a US military man.
He divorced me a few months ago.
I put a recording device in his bag because I was suspicious of his actions and behavior.
（ I have already checked with my lawyer to see if this is against the law. ）
As a result, we were able to hear the scene where he went into the woman's house and the conversation that lasted over 3 hours.
I know cheating and adultery are not usually covered by alimony in Hawaii, but
my husband is active duty military, so if we have proof, he will be court-martialed and given a dishonorable discharge or demotion, and
the other woman is also active duty and will be punished in the same way.


If you have hired a detective before or have had the same experience as me,
please let me know.

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#2

I have hired a detective in Japan, but not in the U.S., so this is not an answer regarding cheating investigations and entertainment agencies, but you know that if you have been married to a U.S. military husband for more than 10 years, the mri wife is entitled to receive pension and other benefits after the divorce. But if your husband's rank is reduced or he is dishonorably discharged because of your accusing him to the military, your benefits from the military will also be reduced. You will not gain anything by accusing your husband of cheating on you with the military out of spite. There are many benefits for Miri wives and children with U.S. military husbands, including health insurance and educational benefits. I think it would be smarter to do your research on marriages with US military husbands and if you are divorcing, act in a way that will allow you to have a secure life after the divorce, including the division of marital property such as TSP.

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#3
  • miｋ
  • 2023/06/01 (Thu) 11:39
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In Hawaii, 60% of international marriages （ divorce within 5 years. The divorce rate between a Japanese wife and her American Caucasian husband within 5 years is 80% in the U.S. mainland and 90% in Hawaii.

From this rate, it would be a miracle if the marriage lasts more than 10 years ？
You were prepared for this when you chose to marry an American ？.

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#4
  • KUMIHASHI
  • 2023/06/01 (Thu) 20:10
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You have the option of not separating.
You have to be careful, you should not receive divorce papers from your husband in the mail.

In that case
receipt equals
acceptance!

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#5
  • Mana
  • 2023/06/02 (Fri) 21:52
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Thank you for your valuable input, ex-mil wife. I knew about the Benefit. I am sorry I didn't write that I don't mind not getting the Benefit because I have more income than him and no children.

KUMIHASHI, thank you for telling me that I did not know that I should not receive it in the mail.

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#6
  • 某ユーザー
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  • 2023/06/04 (Sun) 12:50
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I would gather a lot of evidence
before giving it to him because of his cowardly ways
and then end it publicly.
I'm rooting for you, Topy.
Good luck.

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