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#1
  • Kana
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  • 2024/09/28 09:06

I returned to Japan for about a month to take care of my parents and came back to Hawaii, and my husband suddenly told me that he was divorcing me and that I needed to leave home now … He had an affair and that I was in the way.

I have to return home temporarily to take care of my family again soon and it is financially difficult to find a place to move right now. ?

I am very worried that I will be evicted while I am in Japan because I am currently renting under my husband's name and he is paying all the rent since I don't earn much.

Please advise me if you are familiar with the laws here or have had similar experiences.

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#2
  • Aloha
  • 2024/09/28 (Sat) 18:37
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I don't think the divorce will ever be finalized without your signature, but you might want to ask your lawyer.

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#3
  • atom
  • 2024/09/28 (Sat) 19:41
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Kana
Do you still want to live with such a husband? ?
If he is not realistically independent, I think you should return to Japan completely.
If you also have to take care of your mother, it would be a good time.

Women who live in Hawaii after divorce make a good amount of money, so
they pay their own rent and mortgage.

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#4
  • わんコロン
  • 2024/09/29 (Sun) 13:49
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You should consult a divorce attorney !

If you are going back to Japan to take care of your parents,

it would be safer to sign the divorce papers and return to Japan permanently. It would be safer to sign the divorce papers and return to Japan permanently



You should return to Japan instead of thinking about moving

or find another cheap apartment before you are evicted

If that is not possible, you can always move to a new place
or find another apartment before you are evicted. If that's not possible, find someone looking for a roommate


If you go back to Japan often, find a stable job here

it's impossible ! to get an apartment without stable income
You can't even rent an apartment ! If you have a place to live in Japan

You don't have to live in Hawaii !

In Japan, there are day care centers

You can go to work while your parents are left in Japan. ?

You can go to work while your parents are there

Before you are evicted from your apartment for having an affair

explain to your landlord what happened and what he should do

to help you. <4166> You should consult with him ? if he is paying the rent

since he is the one who signed the contract for the apartment, the deposit

refund will be given to him

he will be evicted while he is back in Japan

you should talk to your husband about what to do

before you get evicted

when you rent an apartment, you and your husband should pay half the rent and deposit

and sign a contract together !

It is advisable to get and keep separate receipts

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#6
  • atom
  • 2024/09/30 (Mon) 14:06
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Kana

I see.
You are too good a person to pay off your husband's debt. !
Maybe that's why Japanese women are so motel.

I know there are many people who have been divorced or hired a lawyer, but
with or without children, owning or renting a house, when they got divorced, etc. Everyone is different, so
you should check the latest information yourself.

When I got divorced over 10 years ago, legal fees were cheap, but
I think they are expensive everywhere now because prices have gone up.
Among them, you should look for a lawyer who is conscientious about his/her fees and who suits your needs.

Hawaii is expensive and if you don't mind a Hawaii-based lawyer. it's the age of ZOOM and a lawyer in the mainland US might be cheaper.

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#6

Kana, you paid off your husband's debt, and now you are in the opposite position
and when you are blessed with a job, you commit adultery and unilaterally force him to divorce you
and kick you out. I can understand his frustration. If you have been married your whole life and have fallen in love
with someone else and decided to divorce her, you should blame her and give her half of your property , and half of your savings to you. I know a friend of mine who divorced his strong-willed wife, left the house and everything to his wife and children, and left for his new
girlfriend with only a typewriter. Are these men gone now? Throwing away their belongings. Dump their baggage, kick them out.
If this is the reality, then take only the things that are important to you and give him a letter saying that you will come back for anything else that is not important to you, and have the landlord present
and record the conversation. Confirm with the landlord the last day he will be moving out and ask for a certificate. If his belongings are destroyed, contact a lawyer and prepare the documents. If you have a bank join acc., check the balance. Choose a lawyer who offers a free consultation, and try to keep it to a reasonable amount of time.
Set your watch to 25 minutes, since it is usually 30 minutes, and ask a friend to set the timer so that you can both be there on the day of your appointment.
I think it is a good idea to use various service organizations.
State of Hi also has free lawyer service, appointment required
Mon-Wed-Fri 9am-1pm 8089092847
Low Income, U.S. citizens or permanent card holders
Legal service Hi 8085364302
924 Bethel St. Hono.Hi96813
M-F 9a-11:30 1p-3:30
Woman's pride. representative Misaki Smith 07056923899
Site is Woman's Pride in Okinawa.
If you have any other info. please let kana know.
My friend is also a Green Card holder and when she was away from Hawaii for a few years to take care of her sick mother in Japan
she paid about 400.00 and had no problem. I think you should inquire, please email me and I will see what I can do to help.
Don't be discouraged
in the midst of a difficult situation with a sick mother and an impending divorce. There are many people looking out for you.

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