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I want to seek recognition and child support from the father of my child who is unmarried and resides in Hawaii.

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#1
  • あやちん
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  • 2024/07/24 20:03

I am a Japanese living in Japan and I am pregnant with a 14 week old child.
The father of the child is an American living in Hawaii.
I was in a relationship with him, but when he found out I had a child, he said he would raise it and that he loved me
but eventually ran away.
So at the very least, I am going to force him to acknowledge and pay child support and raise the child on my own.

I know what to do under Japanese law, but
does anyone know if it is possible for a Japanese living in Japan to use Hawaii's child support authorities
to make the American father pay ？
child support? 966> I would like to know if you have any other good information or advice ・ ・ ・.

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#2
  • おーちゃん
  • 2024/07/25 (Thu) 07:59
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Since the other party is the other party, the man will run away through the proper paperwork. I had planned to play with them from the beginning and throw them away. A Japanese woman would not sue me anyway. I think. The best way to deal with such a person is to hire a lawsuit lawyer and beat him at once.

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#3

Unless you are going to live with your child in the U.S., I think it is better to have the child and raise it alone if the father is not involved with the child, rather than spending a small amount of money on legal fees for recognition and child support.
If the father is not involved in the child's life, I think it would be better to let the child be born and raised by the father alone, than to have the father claim custody of the child and then have the other party be involved in the child's life.　
I think it would be better for the child to live with a new partner and a new family in the future than to have to spend the rest of his life dealing with a man who is paying a few hundred dollars a month in child support.
Unless the father is a man with a good heart who wants to be involved in his child's life, otherwise I think it would be better for his life and his child's life to stay out of it. If the child and the father want to be involved in each other's lives in the future, let them be, but if he is the kind of guy who runs away, recognition is a waste of time.
What kind of lawsuit are you going to file ？ It's a waste of money.　Even if you get a court ruling that you can get child support, if they don't pay, you will have to go to court again to get support from the child support authorities.
If they still don't pay.... There is no end to it. You will have to request garnishment of your wages.　Forget about the existence of the child support system, rather than wasting time, money, effort, and stress.　There are many men in America who are so corrupt that they don't get a job so they don't have to pay child support and even accept an inconvenient lifestyle with cash-only jobs. If that partner is rich with status, it may be a different story, but if not, it would be wise to give up.

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#4
  • ajisai
  • 2024/07/25 (Thu) 20:26
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If you are not married, I think you will need a DNA test.
Even if there is a court order for child support, some people don't pay it and run away.
You might not want to get your hopes up too high.
He already ran away.

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#5
  • JT
  • 2024/07/26 (Fri) 12:25
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Unless the woman lives in Hawaii, she will not be able to receive child support from the national government (国(アメリカ). You will have to hire a lawyer to get it from the father of your child.

My advice to other Japanese women
If you are not married yet, why don't you use contraception ？
I feel sorry for your unborn child, and it must be the most painful for the woman herself.
There are women in Hawaii who are single mothers and make a lot of money, but
only a handful. If you need support, it is best to use contraception or not to have sexual intercourse.
Protect yourself.

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#7

The State of Hawaii won't bother
to intervene on behalf of Japanese i.e. foreigners.

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#9

I believe that you must be a continuous resident of the State of Hawaii in order to be eligible to file an application with the court. In other words, if you hold a visa and pay taxes to the State of Hawaii, you may be eligible to receive services from the State of Hawaii. This is similar to the fact that a foreigner cannot apply to a Japanese court for legal action under Japanese law without permission. If you hire an attorney who specializes in Hawaii family law, it may be possible to negotiate and produce an agreement without going through the courts, but I feel that in this type of case, there is a very high possibility that you will pay a lot of money to an attorney and not see any results.

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#10

Hello, Ayachin-san
I wrote to you because I don't think it is someone else's problem.
I think it is possible for Ayachin-san to get child support.
In fact, there was a woman in Japan who was pregnant with her ex-boyfriend who was in the U.S. military in Japan, and she got it even though he went back to the U.S. It was on the news. It was on the news.
However, it would be better to hire a lawyer, but since there is a precedent for this, it should be quite certain and safe.
I'm rooting for you.

I am also unmarried, pregnant, and gave birth in Hawaii, so I may be able to provide some information.
I am happy to help if I can, as I too have been through a very difficult time.

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#11
  • KAHUKU
  • 2024/08/03 (Sat) 20:01
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The man is so used to cheating Japanese women that
he will probably get away with it.
So, you should abandon the idea of getting child support. So, it is better to abandon the idea of getting child support.
Instead of that kind of thinking, it is better to claim for compensation in a lawsuit that you have been mentally and physically injured.
Do you have a photo of the other person, his/her real name and date of birth, socials, etc. ？?

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#12

Thank you all for your comments. Your warm comments have been very comforting. I am well aware that I am selfish and will cause my children to feel sorry for me.
I don't know how many times I blamed myself for that and wanted to end it all.

However, I believe that there are children in the world who have a good life with a good father.
If you say I am just looking down on you, that's all, but I am ready to love and take good care of my children for their fathers.
That's why I posted this way, to think about what I can do for my children and to borrow your knowledge.

I received a reply today from a child support agency in Hawaii that even I can use their support.
It will be a long term process and it will be hard, but I am so glad that I thought it was worth it to let my child know that a father exists.

Thank you so much for pushing me back.

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#13

I once ， saw a case of an Okinawan woman who received child support in a similar case, so I Serch searched and found it.
A woman in her 20s sought child support for a child born to a U.S. soldier
and was granted ， child support by a court order in the U.S. state of Hawaii after locating the missing U.S. soldier.
The Ryukyu Shimpo dated 12/06/20
The support group is Woman's Pride (Chatan, Okinawa Prefecture)
Representative: Misaki Smith
070-5692-3899
The woman had a DNA test and was able to receive child support payments until her child turned 18.
You are almost there. Your baby will surely be a nutrient that will give you Energy.
You must have been very worried. What she needs now ， is compassion. She was cheated by cheaters. So, please stop criticizing Japanese women. It happens in every country.
Please give me your positive opinion for her and her baby.

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