Vivinavi : Hawaii : (United States) Hawaii

• Stork
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• 2023/10/24 (Tue) 16:17
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Infant care itself is expensive
because of the work involved.
Have you discussed this with your husband ？

I know what you are thinking, but
your children are your two.
It may be a good idea to talk to each other's employers and work shorter hours or
reduce the amount of time you leave your child with them to a minimum. There are places within the hospital where you can talk to them about this.
If you think about it now,
there is a better way for you and your husband.
Good luck.

• Sean0914
• 2023/10/24 (Tue) 21:12
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My son is big now, so this is a long time ago, but
I started working with a sitter when my son was 3 months old.

I was not sure about it, but I didn't want to lose my job position and for my living.
With only one horsepower of my husband, our life is up and up.
Because a temporary return to Japan is a dream.

At that time, the cheapest place for a 3-month-old infant was $ 1200
so I asked a nanny who took care of many infants in her house in Kahala.
At that time, we brought our own milk and diaper $ 700.

Some people are worried about sitters, but
our family was very helpful.
I think you can visit any of them.
Even after we started preschool, we also had a one-time sitter during the summer and school vacations. Please refer to this as one idea.

• Mo
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• 2023/10/25 (Wed) 00:31
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Like Sean0914, I went back to work when my son was 3 months old. In my case, I decided not to go back full time right away, but to return to work on a short time basis in the same industry I've always worked in.

There were two reasons I did not return full time.

It was my first time raising a child, and I wanted to devote myself to childcare for a while.
I didn't think I could survive on the same standard of living as before with babysitters and day care. \I was not sure I would be able to live with the same standard of living with a babysitter or daycare. I was trying to find a day care that would allow me to live at the same standard of living that I had been living at $. I think I did a lot of things by trial and error.
As a result, I did not rely on the government, but with the help of others, my child grew up to elementary school age and I am now doing the work I want to do.

• Minimini
• 2023/10/25 (Wed) 06:29
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Hello.
I am also pregnant and hope to return to work a few months after giving birth.
I am looking for a day care or sitter, how do you all find one ？
I would like to be referred to one if you don't mind.

• デイケア
• 2023/10/27 (Fri) 11:49
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It's a daycare, but you can use an organization called PATCH to search for registered daycares. → https://www.patchhawaii.org/find-child-care/ It will show you the number of people available at each day care, etc. I think you would have to call and request a tour. It is difficult to know the reputation of the day care center from the people who actually use it, so you have to rely on your own intuition when you see it. The only other option would be to ask someone you know for help.

Also, there are programs that subsidize child care costs, although there are income restrictions → https://childcaresubsidyapplication.dhs.hawaii.gov/ It's all in English, so it's hard to read, but it's worth a read. It is worth a read.

https://humanservices.hawaii.gov/bessd/files/2021/09/Child-Care-Gross-Income-Eligibility-Limits-and-Sliding-Fee-Scale. pdf

• Minimini
• 2023/10/28 (Sat) 15:26
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Daycare,
Thanks for sharing the information. Very helpful ！ ！.

• Walnut
• 2023/10/30 (Mon) 20:41
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Thank you all for your replies. This question is one that different couples make different decisions about, and there is no answer.
Your opinions are very helpful because we all have one thing in common: we live in Hawaii.

I received a list from PATCH and found a relatively inexpensive day care, so I applied to the Wait List as soon as I could.
Sean0914 mentioned affordable home sitters （ I was not introduced to any ？ ） that are not officially registered, so I will try to find a home sitter. Also, both my husband and I are currently off on weekends, but we have discussed with them that one of our options would be to change his day off to a weekday. I would miss not having a day off together, but it would save an amazing amount of money.
I also thought it would be nice to make friends with other pregnant women like Minmin and do some nanny sharing ？.

As for assistance, unfortunately our income seemed to be too high to apply for assistance.
But we will not give up and will try to find a consultation service.

I can't imagine going back to work after 3 months at all, but I feel that it would be better to just try it and if it is too tough, become a housewife.
（ It is also quite difficult to quit once and find a place to work again ）

Again, thank you all for sharing information.

Also, I will put a call for pregnant women friends in another thread, so please let me know if you do.