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How to get along with friends

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#1
  • ララ
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  • 2021/06/25 22:01

I have a friend with whom I have lunch, dinner, and barbecue once a month, and quite often she brings a friend of hers that I don't know. She is the one who invites me to lunch in the first place, but when it comes time to make plans to meet her, she insists on bringing her friend.
Of course, she tries to talk with me and seems to be having fun, but it is very painful. It is exhausting.
I am always wondering if I am crazy.
Any good advice would be appreciated.

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#2
  • 焼き魚は大根おろしで
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  • 2021/06/26 (Sat) 09:19
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Maybe that person is thinking the same thing. They bring a friend because two people can't have time for each other. If you don't feel like a dinner party, it's okay to say no. Maybe they are waiting for you to turn them down too.

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#3
  • サム
  • 2021/06/26 (Sat) 22:59
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#1 Lara

If you are in pain, I think you should quit being friends.

If you are in pain, your partner might be too.

If you are Japanese, you can read whether they are laughing from the bottom of their belly or not.

If you live honestly, your life will be fun.

You will live a long and healthy life

without stress and without getting sick, if you only associate with people who have the same sense of humor in their private life.

You will be happier by cutting down on socializing.

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#4
  • 苦痛はストレス
  • 2021/06/27 (Sun) 10:00
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Lara, I understand ！ ！
Stop the painful friendships. You will feel better.

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#5

Since it mentions a barbecue as well as lunch and dinner, we do not know if it was a one-on-one meeting appointment or if it was between people who always meet in multiples, but we suspect that your friend likes to network and get together with a group of people. The questioner may be welcome to bring a friend. Many of the friends you make after moving to Hawaii will be friends you have known for only a few years. You may find that you can make new friends and find people you are comfortable with.

However, some people may not be comfortable communicating with people they do not know. In that case, I think it is a good idea to make a decision not to participate in the meeting. There are many such people.

I think the most important thing is to feel at ease and happy.

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#6
  • 初めましてが送別会
  • 2021/06/29 (Tue) 09:44
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Yes, there are people like that. In the case of my friend, even though it was a farewell party, he invited a complete stranger of the person being farewelled and brought him along without permission.
Maybe he feels like all his friends' friends are his friends. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and your friend may be doing it for the best, so you should tell him or her how you feel ？.

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